Catch a Falling Star…

July 19, 2016

Following overwhelming response,  Berean Bay Media House is going in for its first reprint of But What About Love? Here is one of the bouquets (or is it actually a brickbat? Cannot make out) received following the release of the book, from a former Information Technologist from a community college in Chicagoland.

On reading the blurb of the book ‘Am I the only 21-yr old virgin left in this country?’, I was unmoved. Of what gosh-darned relevance is that to me (...or my family) at present:  My husband is 75; I am 67, with virginity long gone to heliosphere; my daughter 42, married a decade and a half;  and grandsons, at age 9 and 5, too young.  

So when the book was delivered to me no thanks to Amazon, I started to read - goaded only by my regard for the MD of Berean Bay Media House. Flipped open the cover; glanced at the first sentence of The Curtain Raiser -- and I was hooked. Totally. 

By Jove, what a ripping read!

My opinion? I’d give it 4 out of the 5 Amazon stars. 

Why the minus one? I docked half a star each on these 2 scores:

  • Chapter 11.  This chapter was at complete variance with the rest of the book. Till chapter 10, it was a gripping, personal, narrative. Out of the blue, the tone changed. It wasn’t a story; it became a rumination, an essay on Rape. Would have been better if the Nirbhaya incident segued into an account of an actual date-rape, which so abound on US campuses (and India's, too, for all I know) on the recounting of which, given her powerful penmanship, Kim Kim could have written with stronger impact.
  • Chapters 9. Her break up with Tyler.  It was not clear to me what made them break up.  The lead-in into the relationship was well delineated, but not its severance.  I couldn’t quite grasp why they broke up, in the first instance; and  later, kept reconnecting and breaking up.  I suspect Kim Kim was overwhelmed by her sentiments on revisiting a relationship (that still remains sacred and special to her, it seems), and got too emotional to express her feelings cogently on that aspect.

On to the 4 plus stars.

  • Excellent writing. Such an easy flow, so utterly honest, and compelling.  She shows an extraordinary amount of self-awareness and independent-thinking for someone so young.
  • Guides without preaching. Leaves the reader profoundly respectful of both Kim Kim, who is evidently an exceedingly smart, intelligent, questioning youngster; as well as her parents who appear to be the epitome of unconditional love and support.  Tons to be learned from both -- by students, parents, educators, counselors, and all whose concern is fostering emotional growth and wellbeing.
  • Bound to resonate with Young Adults world over and those, in particular, dealing with peer pressure and weight issues.  Never having experienced that kind of a weight problem myself, it was eye-opening to learn how excruciatingly difficult it is on children with such weighty issues (pun intended).
  •  But surprise you as it might, extreme thinness (and pimples) which plagued me right through young adulthood is also just as damaging to self-esteem. At that stage, extremes of any kind in physical looks is agonizing, no matter how earnestly one tells oneself  that only ‘goodness inside’ matters. I’ve always viewed others that way, but couldn’t easily view my own self that kindly. Howzat for irony? And immaturity.
  • Book should be on the shelves of all Christian schools, and made required reading. I see it as an effective, high-school level, textbook; as a manual for Guided Writing in English. The questions at the end of each chapter serve well as prompts, providing much ‘Takeaway Food for Thought’, as you put it.
  •  The q’s worked for me, particularly the ones dealing with the legacy one leaves behind.  They cross my mind often these days.  But whaddya expect, anyway, from a mega introspective grandma, who is skinny as a rail, past her sexual prime, much wedded in a committed relationship, and Hindu?

by Kay Sarma

Former Information Technologist, Chicagoland

One Comment

  1. Butterflyingrace

    Chapter 9: I think the objective of the break up with Tyler was clear ; at least to my understanding of the chapter. It was due dominantly for these reasons. 1) It was because she was not ready for a commitment of that kind initially and she regretted her decision. In this case she blamed herself 2) And the second time, it was because the relationship was taking on an unhealthy turn from both ends. She believes that the first break up may have caused Tyler to change colors into being the kind of person she did not want to be with.

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